Equality of heart and home.
My husband gave me our brand-new car to drive the day after our wedding. Yes, the day after! Mine is an arranged marriage, so most of you would understand that it was a big leap of faith for him. I did drive but not very regularly, and the car was a different one from the kind I was used to driving.
My mother-in-law and I went for a small errand. The highlight of this drive was that I crashed the car in a side footpath while turning at a bend and the fender of the car was replaced. Just a scratch and we both were fine. It happened while we were going, and we continued our drive and completed the errand.
But the most important thing was that my mother-in-law never said a word apart from telling me to be more careful (that was expected and required) and neither did my husband say much.
To his credit, he was non-committal about the damage to the car and has since never really told others or me that I am not a good driver; though the teasing does occur occasionally.
His relaxed attitude not only encouraged me to drive all over the country, but drive many different modes of transport.
In fact, I have been his driver on many an occasion and was one just five days after the crash. I also run all his errands and any other important or not-so-important things which require a car or a driver.
Come to think of it, I now think it was a part of his master-plan to let me do most of the driving so he could concentrate on his job and let me do the little things that are time-consuming and repetitive.
As his very independent and liberated wife, I get to do all the things he doesn’t want to take time out for as well as whatever and whenever I choose to do.
His faith and acceptance of me as a woman who wants to do her thing and his encouragement or support makes me try for things that sometimes even I feel might not be possible.
But what is the harm in trying, when someone has got your back?
Many times, our friends and family are puzzled and even miffed that I end up doing things that a husband should do; like driving home from a party late at night or going and checking out the rates and schemes for phones, coolers, even ACs, etc……well, you get the picture.
I say why must we do tasks according to gender?
If we truly want women liberation and equality everywhere, then why not start at home?
Yes, we do make joint decisions and he does drive me for my mall-hopping shopping trips, but I too drive him to the office when he doesn’t want to.
Happiness all around!
~~~Post updated on 31/08/2024, original post appeared on Women’s Web ~~~
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