I welcome Karan Sharma on the blog. He is the author of the popular book IT HAPPENS which deals with the relationship between a younger man and older woman. Men have never been checked on having a much, much younger partner but women not so much. With many famous people around us having younger spouses I think is slowly being accepted in the traditional sections of our society as well.
Your book, It Happens explores a relationship between a younger man and an older woman, do you think celebrities like Sachin or Aishwariya have made this more acceptable in our society?
Every relationship is different from each other. Celebrity marriages do give a precedence but I don’t think the general society relates to it on a personal level and makes an example of it.
A 2-3 years age gap with the woman being the elder has got acceptance in India but 10-12 years gap will always lead to an acceptability issue. On my facebook page thekaransharma18 you will find a video where I had a conversation with two such couples with the woman being the elder by 2-3 years and in fact, one of them was an arranged marriage.
Common man always feels that celebrities can do anything and are not subject to as much scrutiny as a normal person would be from the society. You have for example Saif Ali Khan who earlier married Amrita Singh who was 10+ years elder to him and now he is married to Kareena Kapoor who is 10+ years his junior. Don’t think though that he is made an example in general conversation.
However, as my book points out, there are some practical questions which are asked of an age gap relationship especially where the woman is the elder one. If logically one debates such a relationship, it is very difficult to justify it and that is where the conflict between the mind and heart comes up.
Thank you, Karan for your thoughts. It is so interesting to explore human relatioships. Such challenges and twists! I wish you all the very best for your future books. Keep Writing.